How to be Cha(rizz)matic?

Gm everyone! Hope y’all are doing good and growing on daily basis, if not you can always start today. Today I want to comment on one of the things that people think you are born with or without (as many other things), and that thing is charisma. How many times have you heard someone say; ”Oh it’s easy for her, she is charismatic” or “Of course people love him, he’s charismatic“. People act like those things are given, and to some point I can agree with that, some people naturally have it more than other, but the point I’m trying to make is, you can always improve it. And please if you are just starting out, don’t compare yourself with Hollywood actors and feel bad for yourself. And in general, never compare your level 1 to someone’s level 20. Anyway, let’s talk about charisma.

Some time ago, as I was scrolling X, I saw quote about charisma that I really liked. It’s originally Naval Ravikant’s quote (amazing guy btw, give him a follow). And it goes like this:

“Charisma is the ability to project confidence and love at the same time.”

It’s so simple and yet so powerful. I never even thought about defining charisma until I saw it. But it perfectly sums up what you need to be looked at as charismatic. The first thing you need to have is confidence. We talked about it last week and will talk about it again and again. Why? Because it’s really important and I mean reeeally. It is the foundation of your success, quality of life, your social life and a lot more, so keep that in mind if you want your quality of life to skyrocket.

Just look at good leaders, be it politicians, actors, business owners etc. What’s the one thing we can all agree they have? That’s right; Confidence! Coincidence? I don’t think so! So yeah, that one is straight forward. We don’t need to talk about that much.

The other thing? Love. Yes yes I know, it sounds a bit strange. You are probably thinking, “What does love have to do with charisma?” But if you think about it for more than few seconds, it actually does make sense. If you are just confident you may seem like cold person and people won’t view you necessarily like charismatic person. But add a bit love to that and people will feel that. It may be a bit hard to explain, but you know what I mean.

And that’s about it. Confidence + Love = Charisma. To put it in simple formula. Generally I think that confidence part is a lot harder and can take some time. But that love part shouldn’t be. Try it out and see if people are more polite and look at you differently than before.

This may seem not so important to some of you on your growth journey and truth be told there are more important things to get right before this, but trust me it will make a huge positive difference in your life once you manage to implement it. Dealing with people will become easier and more enjoyable, so don’t overlook it at the end of the day.

Oh and of course, image that sums it all up.

Thank you all for reading and I hope you are well on your way to personal growth and setting yourself up for success in all areas of life. If you are reading this first time. feel free to subscribe. And if you have any questions, reach out.

Until next week

Cheers